Life Lessons

Posted on by Christiana Oladele Posted in Non-fictionTagged , , , , , , ,

“Look at me Miu Miu,” I would say to my nephew who is only a little over two years old, “in life you will not always get all the things you want. This is life lesson number one I’m giving to you.”

Life.

It is many things but smooth, and I say this at the risk of sounding like a pessimistic, unbelieving soul but I think you would agree that I’m correct. It is definitely full of its ups and downs, thrilling and fun from time to time, nerve racking for the best part and full of trials. Life will throw you so many curveballs and still have the nerve to leave you flustered with unanswered questions. How rude!

Anyway, speaking of life and lessons this year has been full of them. And the truth is I didn’t learn those lessons until life kicked me in the butt and broke me. But at the end of it, I came out good and better with a golden lesson that I am enough. I am strong enough, smart enough, wise enough, beautiful enough, courageous enough… I. Am. Enough.

I started this year an undergraduate with no idea what I wanted to do for the life of me. But something happened and I started this blog (one of the most fulfilling things I’ve done this year), then I graduated, and got a job, went for NYSC orientation, got a PPA, went on a trip and now I’m thriving. Looks good yeah?

No, it wasn’t quite so. Before I graduated I saw hell, or what I thought was hell at the time. The stress of my final year project was beyond me, but I finished it. I still remember the joy I felt after submitting my hardback copy, I ran to the buka and treated myself to hot amala and ewedu soup with gbegiri. I was finally free, or so I thought.

Alas, Life looked at me and laughed out loud.

Sometime in the fourth week of my freedom, a job came knocking and I was happy, it all looked good and was good. Until three months after, the clarion called and I had to obey despite my unpreparedness.

And that was when it started. In the weeks and months that followed, I moved from one mental breakdown to the next, anxiety attacks to another, isolating myself from everything… . It all started small, unnoticeable until I was consumed and overwhelmed. Sighing here and there with little to no enthusiasm left in me to do my job.

Honestly and in sum, I was a mess. Life had done that to me but only to teach me a valuable lesson that I am enough. So I gathered the pieces of myself left and asked for help. With that help and constantly reminding myself of my life lesson, I found my way back. It also helped when I went on that trip and came back even better!

So, at the risk of sounding like a motivational speaker, I’m sharing my life lesson with you and it’s simple: You Are Enough. Periodt.

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P.S: Here’s the face of the graduate. Also, don’t forget to leave a comment of your own life lesson(s) and lastly, compliments of the season and a happy new year in advance. ❤

28 thoughts on “Life Lessons”

  2. Akande Emmanuel's avatar
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    Akande Emmanuel says:

    Well I think we all had ups and downs this year but we overcame though it wasn’t quite easy. We’ve got a similar story but we all have to continue putting more efforts and not think 2020 is going be a magic year. Thanks for this nice piece

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      a4dable_stores says:

      My dear, it was a year filled with challenges and opportunities, but then I was able to identify the chances I have to create my own world. I am a motivational speaker, so I developed an heart of rock, bold, golden but yet flesh. People don’t seems to know you have your own problems, you only conceal it and be strong so as not get others looking up on you disappointed. But last, last we come out strong.
      Congratulations on your graduation, more of this year by his grace.

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    ABSOL says:

    This is amazingly superb! Keep inking dear. And yes, that is what life basically is all about especially at this stage where we are but you know what? We’ve got to keep pushing. And yes, thank you for motivating me. Meanwhile that amala and ewedu with gbegiri part, when do we officially wear agbada and come and eat it properly under the canopy or inside hall?

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  11. Stephanas Adediran's avatar
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    Stephanas Adediran says:

    Life!

    It shapes us to be a better version or a worse version of us. I am glad when I read personal notes from people who pull through.

    The greatest lesson of life was, is and will be never to give up. Odds are part of the journey.

    Congratulations, you are a winner.

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